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Saturday, March 7, 2009

Ok this is so called lesson 2. Going to talk about the non-verbal since it is 90% of communication. What is non-verbal gestures? It is your body actions inclusive of your gesture; body language/ posture; facial expression and eye contact. So why do I want to take notice of these things my body are doing? Because it tells how the person or you are feeling. And the body doesn’t lie.

Have you ever talk with someone and felt he or she doesn’t give a shit even though they are listening? And when you talk with someone else you feel they care and listen so much to you. You feel he/she care for you and willing to listen and after some time, you will more likely talk with the person more about yourself in a depth level. Why? 1 major reason for this is their non-verbal cues. If you have good body language people will definitely be more open and talk with you.
I can give you a list of body language of people but it is you must also take into account the situation and apply it correctly. Example I can tell you that crossing your hands means the person is disclose and like to be defensive. But it could be just that he or she is cold. So I’ll give a list here or what most of the time people body language means
http://www.synergyinstituteonline.com/detail_article.php?artid=173
I know there is a lot. Just take a look at remember some. Sometimes you yourself can detect something is wrong through their gestures
People especially women unconsciously or consciously pick up non-verbal cues. Here I will give a bit of information from my future post. For guys, how do you know whether the girl like you or not? How do you know when is the time to ask her to be your girlfriend? Read her body language
http://www.mamashealth.com/relationships/girlinto.asp
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-to-know-if-a-girl-likes-you.html
When you know she already like you, take your time (but not too long) come up with something sweet to ask her the question. And please don’t make it the boring old way. Come up with something unique. I love to give examples but I need them for myself thanks. Haha


Other people : take notice of their body language and stir the conversation to the right direction. Example you talk about school and they start giving not interested verbal gestures like moving their feet, playing with their hand with item, keep looking at other places instead of you. Usually it means they are not interested . Then you decide ok they don’t like talking about this and talk about shopping. Suddenly their eyes open up more and she show so much enthusiasm. Her feet points towards you, smiling etc. There you hit the spot. Talk more about it.


You: smile, feet pointing at them, listen attentively, don’t do the above things like looking elsewhere(keep eye contact) etc. Be interested to what they want to say. Because no matter how hard you try, even if you follow these good body language, people can sense the aura of “boring” in you. I will give some tips on how to be interested in other people on later posts.

*you can try*People like to talk with people who are like them, unconsciously so try mirroring them. Their posture, their breathing pace, voice tone and speed, legs and hands position etc. Do what they do, example scratch head. When you want to check whether they are “into” the conversation with you or not, try moving anything. Example; move your hands from the table to your lap. They will unconsciously follow you and move his hands to his lap too. That’s when you know whether you’re in rapport or not.

With this, people sense your interest and will be more willing to open up with you. Remember always be enthusiastic and happy. People get attracted by this aura unconsciously. It requires time so don’t expect result in just 1-2 days...May even take months but eventually there will be result.

So if you guys have any comment or questions please post it. There are more verbal cues that you can look out more and more examples I can give but I’m too lazy to type it down. So yea... if you want more list and example comment me and I will post it in my coming posts.